New House Anxiety

Something boiling.. I sense it n smell it coming..

• 15 years ago when I bought my first HDB.
• 6 years ago when BIL bought their first HDB.
• This year we purchased our landed.

All I see at these juncture is PIL n now MIL making fuss and not a single nice word of blessing. (Not that we really need but as parent is this right?)

家和万事兴，长辈要能让晚辈尊重才好。

一哭二闹是小孩，没用。

(Understand from short conversation two evening back - so drop my thoughts here but will not output it to family conversation cause I know it will only make thing worse)

1) MIL move back to her own plc frm BIL plc over last weekend. - All along I sense issue between MIL n SIL, just that we all keep quiet n look okay on surface. Anyway even my own relationship with MIL is in same situation.

2) Complain the kid not filial, cannot meet her retirement expectation. - Retirement plan should be by ownself instead of pushing it to kids to meet the expectation. We give birth to give them a life n not to make them live a life for us.

3) If let her stay over in the small room at level 1 in future is like treating her like a helper (Hum.. like that also can complaint *OMG*). - There is never a plan to let her stay with us, I can accompany my hubby stay over her plc with her some days per month/week, but I really cannot do it the other way for long term. First still have space limitation base on what she need x2 room, second her cleanliness and willingness to help in the house with my expectation n lifestyle... I think will trigger grievances when stay together on longer term.

与其到时吵的鸡犬不宁，不如保持现状。

不要玩火，那是危险的。