Medela Pump and Engorgement

For my first daughter, I use Medela Mini Electric (single pump). Now for my second daughter, I bought another Medela Mini Electric (double pump).

Different between a single pump and a double pump:
1) Single pump seem to focus on emptying the milk duct near the areola area while double pump focus more on the centre area.

2) Use of single pump seem to easy my engorgement problem as the other hand is free to help message during the express process.

3) Double pump is good as one can express both breast at the same time and prevent leaking on the other side.

4) Double pump motor is softer when in use.


Note:
I realise that sometime if engorgement occurred mother have to stay calm, cos the more anxious you are in trying to push or pump out, the lump seem to get more stubborn.

Can try the following steps:
Before Express
1) When you feel the spike pain of milk duct forming, gently message the breast area.
2) Gap the next express time between 3 to 4 hrs (feel the rush of the milk duct).
3) Take warm bath and warm drink just before express.

During Express
1) Use warm water bag to pad the engorge area and around the breast.
2) Follow the flow out momentum and soft massage engorge area to get the milk flow out.

The PIL Story Goes Again

Haise... Recently PIL start their side story again with hubby, but this time I decide not to get involve. I rather focus on my kids, let my hubby handle them. As long as they dun target me too much and my hubby dun take side, else I will just make sure they are out of my life. (I too lazy to waste my time like previously to explain and get angry with them).

I just want to stay happy and work hard for my family. Earn good money and spend quality time with my kids.

This time they complaint:
1) I am not as engaging as the younger brother girlfriend. ( Last time they also complaint the brother girlfriend not tactful, now they use her to talk bad about me... )

2) We never bring our maid to help clean their plc and spend time at their plc on weekend. (Compare us to hubby's cousin who did that for their parent. But my PIL never really like to stay home on weekends and they never like to tidy their plc nor do they cook, so when we visit them also dun know what to do at their plc. Esp. me.. cos at least my hubby can still watch soccer at their plc.)

3) They complaint that hubby put my interest before theirs. ( cos I just delivered recently and need to express milk every 3 to 4 hrs therefore we can only meet them for a few hrs each time during this period)

4) Hubby not giving them enough money, or to be exact never pay for their many trips to Genting, whereas his younger brother did give them some extra money for that.

Price of birth

While enjoying the parenthood, I have to pay a high price for that..

Other than the pain that I suffer, I need to bear with lack of sleep, lack of personal time, slow down in career and personal life pace.

Sometime I feel this is very unfair for many young women like me. Guys do not feel the same pain and they do not need to lose out in so many things.

Haise, my hubby will never understand how I feel and he tots it's easy for me... We often quarrel cos he never plan and I kind of dislike his way of managing finance, we seem way apart in this area.

I appreciate him as a man who is optimistic and always carry a "happy-go-lucky" attitute (maybe that is why he can handle stress at work and life so well), but on certain thing I hope he can just let me manage. At times he become very shallow and mallow in a sense that he want to manage me like a wife will do to their hubby.