True Mother and Fake Mother

This morning gal wake up very early and couldn't sleep...

Somehow past issues just came back to her. She keep reminding herself not to let the "Seed of Hate" to be planted and grow within her and make her unhappy. She can't help but come up with the term "True Mother" and "Fake Mother" for comparison.

TM is someone who scarify a lot for her. Start from when she was young... from giving birth, taking care of her and make sure she lack of nothing even thought life was tough for them. Never once did TM left her child to fend for themselves in a bad family environment (which many would have run away from the bad in-laws and husband). TM endure all the hardship just for the sake of her child, she scarify her happiness and make sure her child - the gal is happy. TM place her children in all position before herself.

FM is someone who try to push her child to take responsibility for her. She only want her children to scarify for her but never put her children happiness above herself. No matter how FM try to be friendly to the gal now, she just dun feel comfortable with her any more.

The gal learn that she must lead a happy life and be very nice to TM as a form of repayment to TM for being so nice to her and to fulfil TM wish of wanting her children to be happy. She find it unfair to take the responsibility of FM for she is not truly nice to her and FM never protect her children from unhappiness, in fact she almost break the happiness of her children. Why should the gal be submissive and allow some FM to exist in her life and spoilt what TM have scarify to build for her?

Incomparison, FM is really nothing comparable to TM. FM only talk about money, enjoyment and how much her children can give her.instead. TM is someone who will think for her children, leave everything aside and do things them first, she never expect alot from her children and she will always worry, and shower her children with care and concern.

Foreign Domestic Worker

I will be hiring a FDW - 'Maid' soon... But I dun look forward to that at all.
I have heard so many stories and read so much reports about their conducts and behaviour. Worse still is I know my mother will have problem with them, cos she is easily bullied and maid cannot meet her cleanliness expectation too.

Just yesterday she told me how upset she was with my sister maid and how my sister choose to ignore and trust her maid. I know she felt very upset and not worth as a mum.

According to her, my sis maid have always been hinting to her that she is only resposible to do work for my sister, brother-in-law and 2 nieces. Recently the maid even told my mum that her friend told her that as a ex-S'pore maid she can easily fretch a S$400 pay (she is from myanmar and currently her agency only quoted $300)

As this is June school holiday, my mum will always go over to my sis plc to be with my nieces and the maid is there to take care of the 2 months old baby. First thing in the morning she ask my mum not to go so early (as she previously mention to my mum that her friend also dun like the master's mother to be around and watch over her).

In the afternoon, when my mum ask her to fried beehoon for all, she said she will take instant noodle. She even went to the extend of telling my mum she can warm up the leftover food in the fridge (why my mum now sound like a maid at my sis place?). My mum than ask her if so how about the kids and my sis who is coming back for lunch after her usual half day work? Guess what? she ask my mum to call my sis to pack back her own lunch.

My mum was fumming by now, finally she remembered that my nieces love to eat porriage, therefore my mum ask my 6 years old niece to go to the maid and make the request for porriage. The maid than reluctantly start cooking, but instead of watch over the cooking process she walk away and hid in the baby room end up the porriage was over cooked...

2nd instant when my sister is home, the maid start to act nice and talk to my sis about her plan (since she is near end of her 2 yrs contract) she knew my mum was there too, she than sound as if ordering my mum to go and bath - "婆婆，go and bath". (according to my mum)

I can imagine and come to think of it why is she treating my mum more like a maid, why is she giving my mum this kind of instruction at my sister place? I have not talk to my sister about this as I know she is very occupied by her own work and baby now... And I really dun wish to go and trouble her, but her maid's attitude is really bad...