1) Mother-in-law: Often treat daughter-in-law as a mistress, and or a family crusher, as they often feel that it is the daugther-in-law who took her son away.
2) Daughter-in-law: Often see mother-in-law as a step mother (who isn't nice to them; like real mum).
Ever thought of how Foundation-less Marriage will be like??
Never till this evening... And what make this a foundation-less marriage?
1) Promise; (Empty Promise = EM)
Before marriage promises were never realise:
a) Quit smoking? First promise 3 months into courtship he will quite smoking, than is 3 months after marriage, lastly 3 months after child birth, but none of them came true.
b) Contribute 50% more to co-saving - EM, with reasons like household installments. Reasons was accepted by wife and co-saving drop till on-par. But 2 years later, when there is no more installment, things did not revert. It just hang there...
2) Commitment - dare not commit, giving reasons that wife will build up expectation and if can't meet that hubby will be scolded. Don't the husband think that it is then time for him to look at how realistic each time he estimate thing to commit and inform his wife of the current status and difficulties he faced? Instead of blaming the wife for being disappointed? Don't the wife have the entitlement to feel disappointed?
a) Time commitment
b) Events commitment
c) Finance commitment
3) Trust / Betrayal - on two occasion: (a) 3 months before their wedding and (b) a month before birth of their first BB, wife discover hubby transfer a huge among of money to his ex-girlfriend. Is this a form of distrust? Since he dun even dare / bother to let his wife know why and what happen before...
