Man and Wife...

The gal find it harder to communicate with her hubby... She got many fustrations, her hubby dun understand her and she think it is difficult for cos they never find time for each other nowadays. Her hubby is either busy surfing or too tired and wanna sleep.

She wanted very much to treasure her family life, but she think her hubby have not been taking his own initiative to help her in cleaning and everything want her to dictate. She is not sure cos she have high expectation or her hubby is simply too 'nua'.


Hubby keep complaining that gal is not good to him and did not compliment him... okie not that she is unaware now, but sometime it is so dificult for her to control her temper and wanna complaint more than compliment... :p Althought it is true that hubby can be very nice to her at times.

There are some feelings and memories that just won't go away easily... whenever she think of it she feel upset, angry, fustrated and unfair.

Upset cos of the moments she did not treasure when she is young, although she can't regret now.
Angry cos she feel that since hubby like that why shld she be bullied by that old witch previously.

Fustrated cos she feel that her hubby changed after delivery.

Unfair cos she hate her hubby for not planning for her and the new born.

Advice to ladies:
1) Please ensure that hubby is really good and caring; no matter before or after delivery (dun be taken in by sweet talk).
2) Please make sure you can take his family, cos it is not easy to manage ones feeling (and this will definitely affect marriage life).

Milk Bag

Milk bag is so expensive...

1) Medela - 20pcs (ziploc) - S$25

2) The First Years - 25pcs (ziploc) - S$19.90 (but I can get it at S$17.90)

3) Playtex - 140pcs (linear) - S$14 (Need clip which cost S$5.90 for 30Pcs at Ikea)

Pics as follow:

a) Playtex


b) The First Years

Breast Feeding

Recently than I know there are actually 3 Option to New Born Feeding:

1) Breast Feeding exclusively (Latch on);
2) Express Breast Milk (EBM);
3) Infant Formula

Option 1 is the best as the tempreature is just right, least case of colic and more antibotics.

Option 2 is more suitable for working mum

and Option 3 is unless you are not producing enough or cos you want a longer feeding interve.

New Born Jaundice and Feeding

Baby Jaundice and Feeding Episode.

Hee.. 10 days after birth of my first BB, she was admitted into KK Hospital due to Jaundice and vomiting milk.

Jaundice level: 207
if Jaundice level hit 260 baby will need to undergo Photo-therapy..

Doctor also mention that we overfed her that's why she vomited.

Guide on the amount to feed New Born:
per kilogram - 150ml

For e.g.
BB weight 3.2Kg; 8 feeding per day; 3hrs per feed
150 * 3.2 = 480 / 8 = 60ml

Baby Doctor Visits

Haise.. since birth of BB, hubby, my mummy and me have been busy with taking care of her and sending her to doctors as we are afraid she is unwell (in fact she is that's why we went all over the place)

We took her to Polyclinic to check on Jaundices. Have been to both Outram and Geylang East Polyclinic, Outram Polyclinic service seem much better when compare to Geylang East. And Outram baby priority queue is for babies 6 months and below while Geylang East baby priority queue is only for babies 1 month and below.

Below are some of the recommended Chinese Physician Recommended:

1) Yu Guo Chinese Physician Acupuncture & Physiotherapy Pte Ltd
Add: 8-B Jalan Masjid #01-04 Kinfston Terrace Singapore 418929
Tel : 6447 4761

2) Eu Yan Sang TCM Clinic
Add: 273 South Bridge Road
Tel : 62235085

My New Born

Its been so long since I last online to write blog... Had been busy with work and getting prepared for the arrival of my new born BB... Finally she is out, but life been even more busy with her.

Thought of starting a new track just to talk about the stuff I experience since her birth and some information for new mummies... Wanna upload pictures but am lazy and currently using Hubby laptop so didn't really wanna connect my stuff here as his lappy always got virus attack.

Most thanks to my mum, she sacrify most to help take care of my baby. When I was in my confinement month, she stay up every nite to take care of baby so that I can rest and we both cannot trust my hubby to take care of the baby, as he is a deep sleeper and he only awake at nite for soccer if ManU is in the game...

New Boss

Why do I feel so down at work?

When I last change job I have this fear with my new RO that make me feel terrible.. Now the fear is gone with a new RO coming in, but still there is something not quite right in this new job. I begin to feel that this work environment got problem. I am not a person who will give up easily, I keep telling myself - "No problem, things will be over soon; you just need to have faith in your job and continue to do whatever you feel necessary." But I feel so tired of the people here and the way they do thing. Especially my new RO and her buddy... :(

I can’t help feeling that I am wasting my time and effort here. I see no opportunity and development growth for me at the moment with the way they do thing. Leadership in this project is rather weak, my RO simple have no time for us and a non RO senior (or rather RO’s buddy) keep wanting to take control of this project team.

I feel trapped as I like this project and have high hope that I can learn a lot, but in the end I was so disappointed. I can’t tender, I can’t just change project because that is not me and I am pregnant… :(

TIME - An Equal Opportunity

The following simply catch my attention and make me wanna put it in my blog and share. :p Not sure who is the Author so can't really reference it.

"Time is an equal opportunity employer. Each human being has exactly the same number of hours and minutes every day.

Rich people can't buy more time. Scientists can't invent new minutes. And you can't save time to spend on another day.

Even so, time is amazingly fair and forgiving. No matter how much time you've wasted in the past, you still have an entire tomorrow.

Success depends upon using it wisely - - by planning and setting priorities. Time is worth more than money, and by killing time, we are killing our own chances of success."

[Author - Unknown]

Recap

One of day, I suddenly though of past experience.. my utmost most regret?
I asked my partner what is his? He couldn't answer me, cos he said he never like to look back.
For me, I'm different... cos I am a person who constantly look back or rather review on what I have done and experience so far. Isn't that why I blog on and off? to keep track of my thoughts?

Recently I attended a volunteer course:
1) Mentoring the teenagers in the Internet age.
They talk about blogging, and gaming. How blogging influence, and what kind of effect it may have on readers. Gaming, what are some of the encounters and thoughts of gaming come about from counsellor who have experience handling.

Blogging of Xiaxue going to be archive as part of S'pore history with National Library??
Gaming become not just a game, it can come with power, motivation and affiliation. Building of virtual world at the expense of the priorities in reality world.

2) Overcoming difficulties in learning: Kids with Dyslexia.

What's There to be Hated

Sometime I will be lost in the world of anger, in the world of hate...

This morning while I was on my way to work, this thought came into me. Why should I spend my time getting upset by people I dislike, and help them grow the hatred seed they plant in me?

If things dun work out the way it is cos of both decision, just find a better way out for yourself.

If they dun love you, leave and find someone who will love you. Although it won't be as perfect as the person you love and love you back, but it will still be better to find a person who love you, rather than spend your time hating and living an upset life.

Hating the other party will not make them any worse off, instead it only make you more miserable. While loving yourself will only make you and people who love you better off, so in comparison which is more worth while to invest in??

Greatest Regret I Have So Far

Last nite I wake up in the mid of the nite to go toilet.
Before I can go back to sleep, something pop into my mind...

I regretted for not attending a ball invitation, I regretted for not having the courage at that kind of age to pursued and accept things that I should have.

Now is too late and I know what pass is past. Not in this life at that same stage to enjoy what I should have at that time anymore...

Aliened Family Took the Keys

After the aliened family moved out. They actually took the gal's house key and show no intention of returning it. When ask about it, the aliened family actually make stories about lossing the original set of keys. The question is then why produce a duplicate to return, and return only one but not both set (with the one they use to make duplicate too)?? Guess the gal is going to remember this episode for life.

Haise… why is everything a replay of what the gal have gone through when she is young. The feeling of a unsecured house/space of her own. She needs to go around in search of a secured place again. Remember her feeling of moving away from old house to a finally so call her own house with her parents.

Why after marriage she found herself in the vicious revolution of feeling the need to look for a space of her own. Cos of the phobia feeling set in by that ‘woman’, no the gal will fight this feeling, she has experience this since young and she will know how to walk out of it.

That ‘woman’ will not succeed in her plan. All these will only make the gal stronger in protecting herself. Is this heaven's will to allow the gal to display her ability to be strong and in control of her own belonging? Can her partner be trusted to standby her in these??

That 'woman' is now pictured like a witch in her marriage, in her suppose to be new life with hubby. The gal sense that 'woman' unkindness and is worried about her marriage.

Aliened Family Move Out

Wow.. its been 2months since i last blog. Well during the past 2 months quite a few things happened. To continue from where I drop off on the gal's life...

The family finally moved out, the gal still remember how the family excused themselves in helping her partner and her to move into the new house previously, so subtlety she refuse to help in this time moving house too. But her partner is so insensitive, he keep pushing her for to help during the shifting.

On an occasion when the gal sister move house and the gal wanna just to hang around to do some soft tasks, her partner actually prompt her to leave cos he planned to shop for X’mas stuff. The gal was terribly hurt by his selfish action. He forgotten who helped and render countless help for their house.

Today she is doing thing just for his sake so hope he dun push her to limit as well.