Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Thoughts for Aliened Family

Dun know they cold or the gal cold... what the gal predicted did happen. For nothing they will not call and be nice. But cos of living in and asking to make certain payment, they called.

Nah... Just a complaint, but she know what she might face at the end... why did she have to face all these, that she have thought of??

Gal cannot understand and did not really know who to turn to. She can only pray that thing will change, those unwanted people will disappear in her life, left with only those that have been kind, love and care for her will remain.

She wanted to be loved, to be treasured and look forward to meet kind people... She dislike that groomy family and those unpleasant treatment from them. Irks at being with them and facing them. The family is not constructive, not supporting and worse of all, they think they are very good but is so ignorance.

Saturday, October 27, 2007

Helpless and Troubled

What can one do when one feel helpless?
How can others help when one feel helpless?
People who are very close to one may not be of help then how?

How can one reduce trouble for others?
Is it cos one think too much that's why they feel troubled?
But can one dun think further?

Sunday, October 07, 2007

Draw Line

Just realise that there is no blog articles for whole of Sept 2007. Oops.. Guess I have really been too busy with life..



Recently observed gal life have not been very happy. She is filled with upset and unspoken anger for that family...


She see that lady as a 'sway' woman, talk without principal(s). How she wish she can just draw the line short and sweet between her and that family.

Plan vs Don't Plan

This world is so full of sarcasm, irony, unfairness and injustice.
In a place talking about justice, very unfair thing can happen too.

There is this saying that ‘if you dun plan, you are planning to fail.’
Sometime it is so unfair that those who dun plan will destruct plans of those who plan.
And when those plans are disturbed it is usually those who plan get hit most, feel the pain.

Why should one tolerate all these? Why can’t one voice out and let those who dun plan feel the pain of not planning?

Thursday, October 04, 2007

Unfair

Unfair Unfair so Unfair... who said one must listen to all elderly?
Even when they dun gain that respect?
Even when they are in wrong?
Even when all are so obvious?

Why do people need to be so fake?
Why do one have to act when one know how they feel?
Will one get hurt?
What if love fade?

Don't know the end result and dun know how to proceed...
Let thing flow without steering?
Will this work out?
How did the girl end up this way?

Saturday, August 18, 2007

Oprah's View on Men & Relationship

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no,
you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.

You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...
even if he has more education or in a better job.

Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
You should not be the one doing all thebending...
compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals.
Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...
when a man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...
You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person,
an hour to appreciate them,
a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them

-Oprah Winfrey-

Thursday, August 16, 2007

Disfigured Water Bottle

Her poor disfigured water bottle, all the way from New Zealand (from her dear).
Cos of her stupidity...

Saturday, August 11, 2007

Gal Talk and Thoughts

Gal Gal had a long chat with her friend last night...
They talk about many issues in life: family, career, relationship and friends around them.

Gal thought about her unhappy in-law issue again. She has been wondering how can she ever balance herself? Her hubby do not really understand what she is going through, he cannot empathize her situation. She has been asking herself, will she be happy in this marriage? How is she going to balance life of migrating into that family?

Her hubby is away and he simply do not care, she feel that he is not with her. He is only there for her because he need a partner. He do not exist the moment he is out of sight, he left no trace of security feeling in her.

She got many mixed feelings. If she is not involve in his world will thing be better for both? His family is definitely NOT one that she will dream of entering. But how?? She can't change anything... She feel traped.

Wednesday, August 08, 2007

Save The Earth

Gal, into another phase of IT life…
From IT study, to IT development and now IT management…
Feel so different, for good or for worse no one knows but it is definitely up to individual to deem and learn.


Gal is like in a recycle business, now reading and understanding how technology can help to implement the concept of ‘paper-less’ – “Save the Earth!!”
Will this great idea turn true? Cos for many years and many projects this idea have been circulating and instead of getting it work what she see is that people will just print out more copies of the document and distribute it freely, there are even times when she herself print wrongly and just reprint like tens over pages of document.

It is just another way to express. If you are in recycle business, but your machine is actually causing pollution to this earth by giving out exhaust fume.

Sunday, August 05, 2007

Independent Feel

Her mood at a weekend course.
Weird to still be categorize under stress.


Her dear, not in town left her alone.
Back to independent life.
Feel more in control.
(not sure if she should be happy or sianz)


Friday, August 03, 2007

Little Things in Life

1) Irritating posture on bus... Why do a guy need to lean like that on a public bus. Err...




2) Look at Bakut Teh PDA uncle at Work...

Monday, July 30, 2007

Foundue for Two

SOoo glad her dear dear bring her to eat foundue in Vivo City...

Love it.... mack mack...

The end product. Wahahaha.....


Friday, July 27, 2007

Internet Petition

Today the gal received the following email from a friend title “The least we can do.......”

She did a search on Internet and found some information from:
1) http://www.joewein.de/sw/hoax-saps-child-protection-unit.htm
2) http://www.snopes.com/inboxer/petition/internet.asp

What the website state about Internet petition is true… there is so little each of us can do and this really did upset the gal…

Some time it is sad that we heard of stories that we wanted to help, but we knew that it is beyond our ability in reality. It is even worst if it is a hoax or scam.

Thursday, July 26, 2007

Open Water Swim Tips

The gal haven’t been preparing for her mini triathlon that is coming in 3 days time. This is the first time she is taking part in a triathlon.
Worried? Excited?

Today she finally spends some time to read up on the open water swimming stuff from the following website: http://www.hulaman.com/triathlon/open_wtr.html

Points that she picked up:

1) Get comfortable

2) Maintain composure

3) Navigation
Try lifting your head up and looking at the end of your lane. Lift your head at different times during your stroke and see what feels most comfortable. Looking up slows you down and tires you out. If you can stay on course, you will be much better off looking up every 20 strokes as opposed to every 6 strokes.

Don't look for too long. If you don't spot your marker (buoy) quickly, take another stroke and look again then. Or you may have only gotten a glimpse of the buoy before you had to put your face back in the water. But this should help you spot it more quickly the next time you look. In choppy or rough water, you may be in the trough of a wave in one stroke, making a buoy impossible to see. But two strokes later, you may be on the crest and able to see for hundreds of yards

Follow others, if you are swimming with others. Use your imagination. There are lots of things around that can help you stay in a straight line without looking up too often.

Don't make big adjustments to your position. If you find yourself quite a ways to the side of the course, change your direction to slowly move back.

4) Racing with others
Recommend the outside of the course over the inside of the course because of turns. At turns, everybody bunches up as close to the buoy as they can. If you are on the inside, you must work your way into that group in order to swim around the buoy (rules generally frown upon swimming to the inside of the turn buoy). If you are on the outside, you can remain just to the outside as everybody else fights to get within touching distance of the buoy.

5) Race start (find space)
Don't start in the middle of the front. Start in the the back, where nobody else will really want your space in the water. The only trouble is that as people get tired after the initial sprint, you will have to navigate through them

Another option is to start near one side or the other. You can always just swim a little further to the outside to get away from the elbows, yet there aren't as many people to swim through after they tire from their sprint. If you want to mix it up with the other swimmers, then be prepared to do a little fighting to maintain your space. A bigger, more forceful kick is one method of getting a little more room. The splash acts as discouragement for those around you

Another trick that is not too obnoxious is simply to make your pull a little wider and hold your forearm close to vertical. This allows you to use your forearm to keep other swimmers a slight distance to your side

6) Wave/Breaker/Swell/Current
Wave
Distinguish between waves (or swells), breakers, and chop. Waves travel in one direction and make you go up and down. Breakers are what result when waves reach shallow water. Breakers crash over your head and try to grind you into the ground. Chop is the result of lots of little waves with no apparent direction to them

Waves generally move in the same direction, imagine what will happen if the waves are coming from your right and you can only breath to the right. Unless you happen to have a set of gills, you probably will not be too comfortable. This is one good reason to learn bilateral breathing.

Breaker
It is best to become comfortable with breaking waves before having to negotiate them in a race. Waves break because of interaction with the bottom. Bigger waves also affect water motion at a deeper depth, so they interact with the bottom and break further from shore.

So the trick is to get beyond the breakers as quickly as possible, swim around out there, and then get from the breakers back to shore again as quickly as possible. When getting past the breakers or back into shore, the biggest thing to remember is not to fight the water! It will win. Don't be afraid to let the water push you around a little - it is better to give a little than to break. There are lots of tricks that can help keep your body intact when getting past the breakers.

a) Go under/through the wave. I list this first because I think it is probably the most useful technique. Just before a wave breaks, you can dive under the wave or through the vertical wall of water and go through the wave. Once the turbulence subsides, the wave has passed and you can come to the surface again. Just remember to keep some air in your lungs in case you get to the surface just before another wave reaches you. If that happens, get a quick breath if you can, dive back under, hope you can get a real breath after this wave and try to stay calm and relaxed. It doesn't take much water to provide protection.

b) Go over the wave. If the wave is small, then you are probably still in shallow water and can jump over it. If the wave is not very small and is just beginning to break, then you can float up and over it.

c) Force yourself through the wave. This is useful only for waves that are too big to jump over but still too small to dive through or go under. The idea is to turn sideways and lean your shoulder or hip into the wave as it breaks. Turning sideways allows the wave to go around you instead of through you. By leaning into the wave, it is likely that it will stand you back up as it passes, but it shouldn't knock you over.

Swell
Once past the breakers, remember to move with the swells. It is quite possible to be standing in waist deep water one second and have water over your head the next. Don't fight it, when a swell goes by, allow yourself to float over it. It will push you toward shore a little bit, but you are past the breakers, so it won't push you all the way. And once it is past you and you are in shallow water again, you'll feel the water pushing you away from shore. Don't fight it, just move with it. It will move you back to the same place you were before the swell pushed you a little bit towards shore.

Although swimming past the breakers is relatively calm, very few people want to stay out there forever. This requires that you be able to get back to shore. This usually can be done much more quickly than getting out past the breakers in the first place since the breaking waves can help you in this case. The waves travel to shore much more quickly than you can swim, so in this situation, you want to become an intentional bodysurfer.

The basic idea of bodysurfing is simple - get into a streamlined position and let the wave push you. But that alone will not get you very far. On your bike, have you ever drafted a tandem on a downhill? If you start the descent with the tandem and accelerate with it, you can get up to some pretty incredible speeds. Yahoo! However, if you start the descent after the tandem, then you have no hope of ever catching it. If you start ahead of the tandem, by the time it passes you it will be going too fast for you to accelerate and catch its draft. Bodysurfing waves is similar.

Current
There really isn't any special technique for swimming with or against currents. It is just like swimming in calm water. But mentally, it can be very different. The result is that you naturally swim in an arc toward the finish, so it is best not to fight the current in this situation

This article is Copyright (c) 1995 by John F. Walker. It may be freely distributed in its entirety provided that this copyright notice is not removed. It may not be sold for profit nor incorporated in commercial documents without the author's written permission. This article is provided "as is" without express or implied warranty.

From:
walker@Xenon.Stanford.EDU (John Walker)
Newsgroups: rec.sport.triathlon
Subject: Open Water Tips
Date: 18 Apr 1995 18:09:03 GMT
Organization: Computer Science Department, Stanford University.

Thursday, July 19, 2007

Life Fairness

Life is never Fair.
We can only try to change certain things.
Be optimistic and accept it!

I need:
a break,
a rest,
a listening ear (that will not critise me)...

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Life

Why must some lesson only be learn/remembered through the hard way
Why must one grow and mature only after the upset encounters
Why should we regret for things that didn't/did take place
Why do we feel upset cos we did not meet the others/self expectation


One must learn to accept to be happy
One must learn to take it easy to be happy
One must be able to be kind to others and self to be happy
One must be content with what they have to be happy

Life can be nothing and everything
Life is about oneself or everyone around you?
Is life for yourself or everyone around you?
So what is life all about?

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Lonely Nite

Oops.. another lonely nite for the gal. Guess she must be quite use to it by now. Sometime she really dun know if she should be angry with her hubby or herself for chosing him.
She knew life will be like that, she need to be independent and learn to live on her own without much friends around. Since she chose this path on her own.
Not only is she mentally tired, but physically her leg muscles are really pain after y'day run. She did not improve, and in fact her stamina drop.
Sometime think of it, her hubby is always busy, but as and when he can he try to be with her, so she should learn to be content with that. Pat herself and cheer herself up.. {^o*}

Wednesday, July 04, 2007

A Story to Write

A few years ago a gal get to know a guy (N) and they were friend, after sometime they got together as couple. Guy (N) is a mature and career minded person, while the gal was career minded and naïve in a sense.

The gal is not sure if that is call ‘Love’ as she feels a bit lose in life at that stage. Guy (N) wanted to do well in his career, they just got together by chance and within a short period they broke off. Gal was upset cos she dun know what was the reason, she doesn’t understand guy (N). Both start and end of relationship was initiated by guy (N).

Reason given by guy (N) during that period was: - He wants to excel in his career, he feel that the timing was not right for him to be in relationship. He doesn’t want to hurt the gal in future when he will neglect her due to work. The gal feels that was not an excuse for breakup, but there is nothing she wanted to say, she just hopes that the guy will change within weeks. The truth is there was no news from guy (N) there after, and the gal has no courage to pursue further as she is loss and have no confident in relationship.


Years after that, the gal heard news of guy (N) via a friend; he is going to get marry. The gal was also in another relationship by then. Sometime she will still ask herself what had happened during that period. When her current boyfriend neglects her due to work, she wonders what guy (N) will think if he knew that the gal still lead the life that he doesn’t want to give her years ago. On the other hand the gal felt silly, cos guy (N) may have totally forgotten about her, all that he said to her might just be a white lie for the breakup.

Monday, June 25, 2007

Philanthropist - Warren Buffet

Hey, the girl did not know how true the following is since it was sent to her via a friend. Anyway she decided to share it with all:

There was a one hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity. Here are some very interesting aspects of his life:
1. He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late!
2. He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.
3. He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in mid-town Omaha , which he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence.
4. He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people around him.
5. He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest private jet company.
6. His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis. He has given his CEO's only two rules. Rule number one: do not lose any of your share holder's money. Rule number two: Do not forget rule number one.
7. He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His past time after he gets home is to make himself some pop corn and watch Television.
8. Bill Gates, the world's richest man met him for the first time only 5 years ago. Bill Gates did not think he had anything in common with Warren Buffet. So he had scheduled his meeting only for half hour. But when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren Buffet.
9. Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone, nor has a computer on his desk. His advice to young people: "Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself and Remember:
A) Money doesn't create man but it is the man who created money.
B) Live your life as simple as you are.
C) Don't do what others say, just listen to them, but do what you feel good.
D) Don't go on brand name; just wear those things in which u feel comfortable.
E) Don't waste your money on unnecessary things; just spend on them who really in need rather.
F) After all it's your life then why gives chance to others to rule our life."

She did a search about him on google:
http://www.woopidoo.com/biography/warren_buffett.htm

Sunday, June 24, 2007

2007 Bday Weekend

The girl want to make use of this blog to thanks her many good friends for taking time and spending so much for her 'B' day. Although she complained her dear, but all those that happen to her during the weekend will help her balance alot. :)

THANK YOU VERY MUCH to those who have CONTRIBUTED these two days!! {^o*}
Friends Forever....

Also NOT discounting her HUBBY for being by her side for this weekend...
Her HUBBY is still very much being loved by her.
Just that at times she cannot help getting angry with him for the inconsiderate moments...

Wednesday, June 20, 2007

2007 'B' Day Dinner

Hum.. This two week busy having dinner with friends..

Cos its near her 'B' day, Attach some photos here:

1) Central

a) Grilled Dory

b)Hamburger (with their house sauce)

2) Jalan Sultan Area

a) Surrounding

b)Meal

c)Drinks

p.s. Sad Sad... this year dinner with her dear dear got no photos... dun feel excited, and no surprise from her dear...

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Acts on Bus

This morning while the girl is on her way to work, she saw a middle age couple behave very intimate on the public bus. She feel uneasy, cos the couple should be in the their 30s, and she feel that they are not considerate for other commuters. She did not took pictures of them, but instead she took pictures of these two kids who keep looking at them and she guess the kids feel weird or uneasy too. Wahaha! {^o*}



Selfish Act on Bus

One of the many selfish act the girl see day to day...


pic 1 Early morning on a crowded bus to work.
This lady down here putting her bag on one seat and enjoying her sleepy ride to work.



pic 2 A close up shot on her selfish act
Sleep so soundly, no one dare to disturb...



pic 3 Finally the daring uncle wake her and ask her to clear the seat for him to sit.
Hooray! Three cheers for uncle!... :p

Friday, June 01, 2007

Life is Full of Short Stories

At this moment you read my blog it is just like reading short stories from one of the many authors. The next moment you may happen to visit another blog and start reading the short stories that occurred in another author’s life.

Why do people spend so much time on hating and getting angry, end up they lose a lot of precious time to treasure their love ones, and enjoying the love of others. Imagine the following scenario that always took place in a movie: The character will spend many years to hate, plan for revenge and hurting people who love them. By the end of the show they will always realize that it is not entire the fault of those that they hate, and losses so much of those that they treasure. Can’t help but ask myself why do such thing happen? Because we are always blind by what we presume or perceived?

1. Learn to love those that you love.
2. Voice out to those that you care, why you have sour feelings at times and listen to what they have to say.
3. Do not jump to conclusion, because as human we are always ignorance to certain extend. We may not be in the other party position to really understand what they are going through.

If each of us were to play our role well, and learn to listen and understand certain issues. Relationship will be easier to handle and life will be happier for everyone around us.

Monday, May 21, 2007

A Phrase of Life

Very upset… she have been thinking and convincing herself, not to be angry and not to hold any hard feeling. She feels they are being uttered unfair to her and her parents.

They never think of who sent the girl to school, who support her when she is overseas while she is not earning a single cent and yet spending everyday while overseas. She never bother to tell her side of stories, doesn’t means they can ignore these facts.

Her mum was being bullied at work, came home crying, but she continue to work because her daughter is still overseas. Her mum sent her money every month in order to see her complete her overseas studies without worrying about money.

A selfish mother who ignore her son happiness, and put herself above all. Who never look at the big picture and out to force them to the very corner of giving up. The girl is being force to the edge and she know he is too.

They both love their parents and they both will suffer if this goes on

Sunday, May 20, 2007

An Almost Forgotten Concert

Remember the first concert she ever spend money and go to was when she is in secondary school. She vividly remembers it was with a group of good friends: LY, SL and KC. They spend like S$50 per ticket to watch the Grasshopper’s concert live in Singapore Indoor Stadium. This price was the cheapest and yet it is like burning a big hole in the girls pocket. This year they are back, and it is been 12 years since then… She was at the concert once again last evening with the same group of friends, except KC cos she was out of town for work.





See the tics she got… :p Wow… Grasshopper still that hot…


The gals are wondering what will it be like for the next 12 years? Will they come for another Grasshopper concert like last evening?

Saturday, May 19, 2007

Different View Point

It’s normal to hear vendor grumble on how bad the user/client is treating them, and drawing lines in term of treatment. But it is abnormal if you heard of something like the following?

A user/client complaining vendor are the ones who want to draw line and have not been treating them like colleague or friend even though they are working in the same office. He felt dis-hearted as vendor never really want to befriend them, they come and go without informing and saying 'goodbye'.

In vendor point of view it may be the user/client who is drawing the line and making it difficult for them to stay in touch. They are not involved in the user/client function and exchange program anymore.

Think problem occurred if the management did not convey the message correctly and it affect the ground working relationship. They could have inform the company about the contract change, and therefore the working method is different too.

Monday, May 14, 2007

Roman Numeral

I am always loss when using Roman Numeral
Dedicate to those who have same problem as me.. {^o^}

Arabic Roman
01 - I
02 - II
03 - III
04 - IV
05 - V
06 - VI
07 - VII
08 - VIII
09 - IX
10 - X
11 - XI
12 - XII
13 - XIII
14 - XIV
15 - XV
16 - XVI
17 - XVII
18 - XVIII
19 - XIX
20 - XX

Basic Numerical Symbols:
I - Represent Single digit
V - Represent 5
X - Represent 10
L - Represent 50
C - Represent 100
D - Represent 500
M - Represent 1000

Thursday, May 10, 2007

Public Sector Work

Yesterday galA was talking to a colleague (galB), and they share a common thought. As vendor they are suppose to help the civil servant (CS) with some design tasks. Upon giving the CS the initial design base on what they have so call ‘confirmed’ requirements, they are suppose to went through rounds of discussion, get approval and lastly get back to galA&B with the confirmed change and for them to start work.

(Well the above mention was suppose to be the ideal way of implementing something)

Instead galA observe that they like to go through draft pass it to them for change, then got through 2nd level change and pass back to galA&B for change again, then the 3rd level, so on and so for till final level. By then will be like 1-2 months down the road (depend on the availabilities of each level members). For such scenario galA&B usually charge base on the effort use for each change and a simple task effort can be blow up due to the changes (e.g. change of a title with minimum effort but can re-do for 4-5 times)

galA know some may said then just go through black and white for their confirmation on design. Well what she see is, that is of no use for the above scenario, as CS will tell her this idea is from Mr XYZ from round one discussion and that idea is from Ms ABC on another round discussion. Both are client, both idea they have to absorb and on a one fine day they will said Mr DEF have a better combination for what Mr XYZ and Ms ABC have in mind. And the third person idea they also have to take in cos he is from the same team just that he was on leave during the previous session. :(

Upon submission of effort use, the CS will complaint: “Wow!! why such simple task you guys charge so high? You are taking tax payer money you know?”

Oh my god, do they ever realize who is the one wasting tax payer money? Why can’t they simply take the initial draft, get all involved staff in for discussion, make refinement, and get agreement for galA&B to come out with the ‘real’ final design and show it to their very important management for approval on implementation (just one time change). Instead of depend on who free to contribute idea for different rounds of discussions. GalA think that will really cut down the effort they spend.

galA also have their problem, not that they want to charge high effort to the CS, but with the time they waste, who are they suppose to claim from and how do they account it to their respective company?

galA realize why her friends always complained life as vendor is not easy, because the civil servant time are precious while vendors' time are like nothing to them. So what if galA is also part of the working force and contributing tax? CS never respect vendor; they forget that they are also wasting tax payer money if not more then vendor.

I still remember when I just started working in this company for public sector, some ex-colleagues joked that we are civil servants’ servant – “so what do you expect?”

Monday, May 07, 2007

Retribution

When I was young, I dun know how to control my bad temper. I like to say things that upset my mum. She dotes on me and still stands by me no matter what happen, she just hopes that when I mature, I will change. She always said my temper will do me no good in society. As time pass I learned and I start to see things differently. She is right. I was hurt and I know the reasons, I learn my lesson and I grow. But still I have my principal to follow.

I believe strongly in retribution. Now whatever I go through I will think it is a retribution for what I did in my younger days to my mum. But I hold my principal, that I did nothing wrong. I can be like my mum eats the humble pie because of the word ‘FAMILY’ by making my appearance and greeting elderly but I will not go against my principal to apologize for something that I didn’t do. I can classify and clarify the whole issue as a misunderstanding, but I will not allow people to force some unnecessary fault down my throat

Wednesday, May 02, 2007

Syndrome

Something I wonder is it a syndrome or what?
Why did I lose my Wedding band during this period?

It leads me to think of the time when the pair of girl-boy hand phone accessory had a missing partner. Cos ‘he’ lost the girl and I was so upset that he thought I am angry with him. Actually it is more like upset rather than angry.

Now I loss my wedding band and I am facing problems with this marriage, what is it trying to tell me? I can’t find it and there is no point buying new ones because the original can never be replace/substituted.

Thursday, April 26, 2007

Voluntary Work

Last Sunday (22nd April 2007) I went to join a voluntary program. :)



Initially feel quite lose cos was alone without any close friend with me, but soon got use to it. It was easy to blend in the group when you are doing voluntary work. Early in the morning, we went to Old Airport Road, gather and take our attendance, followed by accompanying the elderly to NTUC @ Bukit Panjang Plaza.

We are each attached with an elderly, and they are each issued with a S$30 voucher. It was pretty nice, as we just need to bring them around the supermarket, help them get the stuff they need. Assist them in reading the labels, calculating the costs and carrying stuff for them.

After that we proceed to lunch at Bukit Batok Civil Service Club – Hilltop Garden Restaurant. Where lunch is served and a series of entertainment programs set in for the elderly.

After the lunch we sent the elderly back and helped them carry their stuff all the way to their door step. On the way back we chat a lot and I even get to visit her one room flat in Old Airport Road. The flat was very old, according to the elderly that I am attached to; she mentions that the flat is about 50 plus year old and during that period she only need S$35 to buy the flat. (Wow... can you imagine that compare to current property market? $350 K for a flat is common)

Although I’m really tired after the whole event, but it never fail to make me feel happy and fulfilling after that. :p

Wednesday, April 25, 2007

Marriage Partner 1

Heehee... today on MSN with a friend and happen to mention about marriage cum parnter:

[09:29:06] friend says:
are u planning any tour ?

[09:29:47] me says:
nope, but ths weekend I will be going for a island trip.


[09:30:07] friend says:
scuba diving trip rite?

[09:30:30] me says:
yap friend's wife told u??


[09:30:46] friend says:
ya have been nagging me loh...


[09:31:03] me says:
hum? why?


[09:31:24] friend says:
say me no time to go with her on tour

[09:31:34] me says:
haha.. me's hubby also mah..


[09:31:53] me says:
actually my trip is me and some ex-colleagues friends..


[09:31:58] friend says:
but this weekend .. i got to work ..

[09:32:05] me says:
me's hubby didn't go also cos he too busy.


[09:32:10] friend says:
oh .. no me's hubby?

[09:32:19] friend says:
oic ..


[09:32:22] me says:
yar me's hubby also he said he may just stay in camp.


[09:32:43] friend says:
hmm


[09:32:56] me says:
initially I worry leaving him alone for weekend and labour day.. but he said never mind..


[09:33:10] friend says:
hmm ...


[09:33:20] friend says:
ok ..

[09:33:40] friend says:
friend's wife don't like to go out with her friends ..

[09:33:44] friend says:
dun know why ..

[09:33:53] me says:
he said like that is good also cos he may stay in camp and then no need to worry leaving me alone..wahaha...

[09:34:35] me says:
is she all along like that? or b'cos of u?

[09:35:52] me says:
hum.. I heard comment from a friend that her world only got u and one or two colleagues only.. heehee.. tot you must feel very good to have such loving wife.

[09:36:31] me says:
sometime I am afraid I got too caught up with my own activities that I neglect me's hubby...

[09:37:31] me says:
actually I feel that I changed alot.. now I am very dependent on me's hubby.. even when I got
out with friends I like him to come and fetch me and stuff like that.. haise...

[09:39:11] friend says:
its perfectly normal ..loh ..

[09:39:25] friend says:
for friend's wife case .. ya she is too dependent ..

[09:39:43] friend says:
sometimes .. i got to work ..


[09:40:26] me says:
nah.. I think gals do change a bit after marriage...

[09:41:08] me says:
that's why I feel that at times I am controlling my dependence on my partner too and the feeling is quite hard..

[09:41:16] friend says:
nop .. she is like that before we get marry ...

[09:41:33] friend says:
if me's hubby trick u well ..

[09:41:49] friend says:
i meant .. trEat u well .

[09:41:57] friend says:
it is okay .


[09:42:52] me says:
yar. so far he is okie except I sometime complain he sleep too much and didn't help me with house work wahaha,,,

[09:43:09] me says:
I think I have become weekend maid for the new hse..

[09:44:26] friend says:
friend's wife also ...

[09:44:26] friend says:
and me too ..

[09:44:26] friend says:
there is no one to clean up the hse if u dun do it .


[09:46:00] me says:
yar.. me lagi worst cos these few weekend me's hubby commit all his time to slp and study so I have to take up most of the major cleaning task...


[09:46:34] friend says:
thats bad ...

[09:46:54] friend says:
take it easy loh .. when he is free .. just ask him to help u ..

[09:47:05] friend says:
u take a break ..


[09:47:45] me says:
yap that's exactly what I am doing.. haha... got to learn to relax else will die of tiredness,,, wahaha...

My ROM Ring

Sad Sad... I lose my ROM ring...

Remember that day I woke up very early and stone cos last nite sleep at 4am.
(Hubby's university friends was at our place for mahjong)

I am late and need to be at Kallang - old airport road by 7am for C.A.R.E Project 2007.
Throughout the voluntary hours, I was playing with my ring.
The last memory I have with the ring was trying it out on my left and right hand fourth finger when on the way back to Kallang from Bukit Batok.

When back I helped the old lady to bring her stuff up her one-room flat in Old Airport Road, Had a short chat with her and proceed to the bus-stop to wait for hubby to pick me up. We then go to Kallang KFC; I was full so I just accompanied him there for late lunch (3.45pm). After the eating, hubby drove to Sun Tec. I was very tired then so we decide to quickly grab the wine that hubby want and change the M'sia Ringgit I need. We headed home soon there after.

At about 6.30pm I reached home, was so tired that I just sit on the sofa and refuse to move. Till about 7pm I finally decide to do some house work before going to my mum's place. I was clearing the tibits mess left from last nite, while hubby was sleeping on the sofa. By 8pm I asked hubby to wake up and help, cos I am really fed up...

I ask hubby to fix up some holes by applying the silicon we bought quite sometime ago.
Hubby got silicon all over his hand and I was thinking he should have removed the wedding ring first. And I thought I was safe, cos I have a feeling that my ring was well kept while I do housework.

Only at about nine after vacuuming the house, then I realized that I dun have my ring on and I couldn't find it there after. I was very tired and upset, I dun know what to do, where to find and what have happen to it... I cried that evening, not sure id b'cos I am tired, I am stress, I am upset or simply b’cos I am angry with my carelessness.
Why I can't seem to get things done properly lately??

I am UNhappy... :(

Second day, as I am on a course, so I get to knock off by 5.30pm. It was a rainy day, I am tired. Earlier I did message hubby that we will go to the KFC this evening to look for the ring, but I decided not to wait., cos he was busy recently. I pushed myself to alight at Paya Lebar MRT and walked 2 bus stop distance to take bus No.30 to Old Airport Road. I alight and walk for 1.5 bus stop distance to the KFC. Check with the crew there, but nope, it was not there to be found.

I walk for another 1.5 bus stop distance to catch bus back to my new house. I was alone in the house look high and low for my ring, trying hard to recall where I left it. When was it last time I remove it from my finger. I open up the vacuum cleaner bag and searched. I went through all the stuff that I may have contact with y'day. But to no valid, The ring was nowhere to be found.

I feel so tired and lonely to be doing all these alone.

Wednesday, April 18, 2007

Poor n Rich Relationship

I have done some soul searching, I ask myself am I that bad? Why she need to treat me this way. I compare over this period how I try to help and show up as hubby's wife (as a family member) while hubby younger brother girlfriend (B.G.F) dun even bother.

After so many things take place, I finally wake up from my naive idea of finding out where went wrong. Actually the answer is simply because I am not as rich as B.G.F. I cannot buy a car, provide a man and send him to university like what B.G.F family can for hubby's younger brother.

Haise.. how can like mother like son really take place in front of me? Hubby use to complaint and ask me not to compare him with my brother-in-law as their income level is different, he ask me not to be like my sis - want pick up a fight. See now all these happen via his mum towards me.

Treat me like shit when I treat them okie, jus cos I am not as rich does it mean I have to humble myself like the 50s to 60s poor daughter-in-law being bullied?? Who is the want who start it off to pick on me and my shortcomings?? (out to look for agruements right??)

Last time when I'm young people use to look down on my family cause we are very poor. My mum got to work as temp maid inorder to take care of us while earn an income. I tell myself next time when I grow up this situation have got to change.

I have always think that I make it since the day I start working. I behave myself no matter in school or at work just to ensure that I make my mum proud. Why should I let hubby's mum mis-treat me and look down on me now?

Thursday, April 12, 2007

32.dll

Since yesterday nite discover my laptop got an error message that read like below:
The system DLL user32.dll was relocated in memory. The application will not run properly. The relocation occurred because the DLL C:\Windows\System32\Hhctrl.ocx occupied an address range reserved for Windows system DLLs. The vendor supplying the DLL should be contacted for a new DLL.for a new DLL.

Lucky i manage to find the solution online, via the following link:
http://support.microsoft.com/kb/935448/

RESOLUTION:
To resolve this problem, use one of the following methods. Note Home users should first use method 1. However, if security update 935448 is not installed on the computer by using Automatic Updates or by using Microsoft Update, home users should use method 2.

Method 1: Install update 935448 by using Automatic Updates or by using Microsoft Update
To open Microsoft Update, visit the following Microsoft Web site: (http://update.microsoft.com/microsoftupdate)

Method 2: Install update 935448 from the Microsoft Download Center
The following file is available for download from the Microsoft Download Center:
Download the 935448 package now. (http://www.microsoft.com/downloads/details.aspx?FamilyId=74AD4188-3131-429C-8FCB-F7B3B0FD3D86)

Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Just Another Day

Life gets pretty boring after some time. Recently I start to look back and realize that I missed life during that period. I use to think that I am lonely than, but now I feel that I was carefree during that period. I can choose to bump around at home or be very diligent in workout.

I think when people said age catch up it is also due to our environment changes and people around us change and we need to change to suit them as well. We cannot forever live in the world of our own. But I do miss it…

If only we can get someone who is willing to share our life in the way we want it how nice can that be… (Dreaming only)

Ohh yar, this evening got Malay class but I forget to bring my notes out. :p

Tuesday, April 03, 2007

In-Law-Relationship II

Last night have a small talk session with my hubby to work out what had happened recently. Why his mum react this way. We both guess it is not due to a single event, more of a build up. A lot have been told to my hubby about what happen via his god mother. So far what we can conclude is that he did not spend enough time with his family and in turn his mum took it off me.

I feel so unfair. Actually many times I feel very angry with hubby for not spending enough time with me too, but think of his work and his stress I dare not throw my temper but chose to cool myself down. Cos I understand that as one move upward, there will be more responsibilities and working hours will grow.

For the past month I sense the stress of marriage. Even if you dun mean it and really not your problem you will still get it. I remember one weekend I even have a nightmare of losing both my mum and my hubby, I was crying when I woke up. Now I realize that I am under certain unseen stress, I feel bad as I am playing the bad character which I never want to be.

Today in office I am still thinking, why doesn’t his mum think for him? Think of his stress, his working hours and etc… Every young couple nowadays will setup their own family and own their house, when time come they will sure have more commitments and less time, that is the fact of present society isn’t it? Take for example, when his mum was young she also wanted her own small family that’s why she chose to move out with his dad. When her in-laws was not happy about it, they end up never talk to each other isn’t this what she went through years back? Why can’t she understand me now? (If next time I can't understand my son please refer to my own blog... to remind myself)

She thinks I am her family crasher? I took his son away from her? Let me list down the time we have:

From Monday to Friday: Normally my hubby starts work at 7.30 or 8.30am and will work till 8 or 10pm. When he is back he will need time to eat, daze, watch TV, and bath. By then it will be like 12 to 1 am sleeping time.

Saturday and Sunday: Normally I will have one weekend morning for exercise, he will either be with me or he will be alone sleeping till 12pm. Afternoon if have time we will meet up his parents / friends / home doing housework and watch SCV program. My hubby like to play mahjong and since we have a house, most of the time we will invite friends over to play till late and the next morning we will sleep till late.

See that is what I mean. I dun really stop my hubby from meeting his parents, just that we only have 2 days per week for ourselves so what choice do we have?
Now I feel like:
Daughter-in-law = Family Crasher
Isn’t it funny?

Come to think of it could it be I am not suitable to be a daughter-in-law? Cos I like to hang out with friends at time and that is only suitable for single hood life? If take away time for exercise, meeting friends and doing housework then we will have at least 1.5 more days per week for his parents. (But that is definitely not the lifestyle for me) :(

Actually hor, I miss hanging out for Sunday blunch with my family too. Last time my Dad or Brother-in-law will always take the whole family out for a good blunch and I feel so happy being with them. Cos I can go for my early exercise, come back bath then go for a nice family blunch, come home relax or meet friends later. No stress just a happy and relax weekend. Does my mum want to complain?

Think further, if this is the case, how is my hubby going to manage future family life? Next time if we are going to have kids, we will have even lesser time. We will have to divide our time for work, have to take care and spend time with the kids, have our couple time, have family time and friend time. Are we going to say:
Kids = Blood Sucker of Family??

Definitely NOPE! My kids have to be the joy of my family

Tuesday, March 27, 2007

My Mother

Come to think of it… Compare my mum to others mum that I know recently…

I feel so great to have my mum. She is so benevolent to her children. You hardly see her throw her temper at her children; most of the time is the other way round. (I am really sorry mum…)

She is so independent, she only cares about what she can give to her children and never ever once did she complain that her children didn’t spend enough time with her or give her enough allowance. She never allow her kids to worry for her, she will queue in the hospital for hours alone waiting to be warded and yet did not call to bother her children to accompany her, thinking that it will disturb their personal time.

She feels sad when her children are upset, when she sees her children under stress. She will do anything for her children. For her children she has chosen a life full of hardship, a life without a loving partner and yet remains at the same place just for her children sake.

When she is young, she gives up her youth, and all her income she spend on her children. She has no saving and no personal time for herself. She lives her life for her kids and no matter how tough the environment, how bad others treat her, she will remain strong for her children. She is willing to do anything and protect her children at all time.

She cares about her children future, worried that the children do not know how to take care of themselves. She even goes to the extend of worrying about her children future family life. She worried that her children may not know how to take care of their future family, and nobody help her children look after the kids and etc.

How many mothers can be so great? Yes, I know many mothers are great, but how many actually great to the extend of giving up everything for the children, not asking for anything from the children and continue to be so independent just hope not to be a burden to her children?

Wednesday, March 21, 2007

Knowledge on Making Will

FAQ

What is a Will?
A Will is a document by which a person (known as a testator) gives instructions to a person (known as the executor) nominated by the testator to carry out those instructions on how his properties are to be distributed upon his death. The person who benefit under his will are called beneficiaries.
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What properties can I distribute under my Will?
Assuming that you are not a Muslim (If you are please see the Question below), all the properties which you own at the time of your death can be distributed under a Will except:-

properties which are held under a "joint-tenancy" with other persons. "Joint-tenancy" is a special legal term to mean that where the property is held by 2 or more persons, upon the death of one person, ownership of the property will automatically vest in the surviving owners. Not all properties held by 2 or more persons are in joint-tenancies. It is best that you check with lawyers.

moneys in your Central Provident Fund (CPF) Account. If you have made a nomination, the moneys will be distributed according to your nomination. Otherwise it will be distributed according to the rules in the Intestate Succession Act. For details of the Intestate Succession Act, please see related Question below.

properties which you are holding as trustee. This is a fairly technical area of law and you should check with lawyers.
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Who can benefit under my Will?
The short answer is anybody, even people you do not know or who do not know you. You can even will your property to persons who may not have been born when you signed your will, say your grandchildren. Your favourite charities can also benefit under your will.
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Can I change my Will?
Yes you can. To change a will, you can either prepare an addition (called a codicil) to the will or revoke your existing will and prepare a new one. Marriage also automatically results in your former will being revoked unless the will is prepared with the marriage in mind.
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How often can I change or sign a new Will?
You can do so at any time. Just ensure that the old will is destroyed. The best way of ensuring this is to physically tear it. The requirements for making a will set out below.
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What are the benefits of having a Will?
Often you would want to make specific provisions for some of your beneficiaries, say someone who has a particular liking for a painting that you have or for a piece of furniture. Or you may want to provide for a handicapped next-of-kin. A will allows you to do this. You can also state in your will who the executors will be. In this manner you can have more confidence that your intentions will be carried out.
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What would happen if I do not have a Will?
In the unfortunate event that you die without a will, your assets will be divided according the rules set out in the Intestate Succession Act. Only in the event that you do not have any next-of-kin at the time of your death will your assets go to the state (in lawyer lingo, bona vacantia).

Your next-of-kin will have to administer your estate and ensure that proper distribution takes place. Without a will, the court may require your next-of-kin to provide to the court 2 sureties whose assets are equal to or exceed in value the value of your estate to "guarantee" that your administrators carry out their duties diligently. From experience, it is difficult to find such sureties
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What are the requirements to make a Will?
You must be at least 21 years of age and be of sound mind before you can make a will. The will itself:-
must be in English;
must be in writing;
and must be signed by you in the presence of 2 witnesses who also sign in the presence of one another (your beneficiaries and their respective spouses should not be witnesses).

If you are a soldier in actual military service or a seaman at sea, you may make a will even if you are below 21 years old. If any of the beneficiaries are minors (ie below the age of 21 years), there must be a least 2 trustees/executors.
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What happens after I die?
The will takes effect only upon your death. Your executors will apply to court for Grant of Probate. The Grant of Probate when allowed by the court cannot be extracted (issued) by the court until the estate duty to your estate has been cleared. Once the Grant of Probate is issued, your will becomes a public document. The original will is retained by the court. You assets will then pass to your executors who will then put into effect your wishes as stated in your will.
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What happens after I die?
The will takes effect only upon your death. Your executors will apply to court for Grant of Probate. The Grant of Probate when allowed by the court cannot be extracted (issued) by the court until the estate duty to your estate has been cleared. Once the Grant of Probate is issued, your will becomes a public document. The original will is retained by the court. You assets will then pass to your executors who will then put into effect your wishes as stated in your will.
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I am a Muslim. Would this make any difference?Some of the above will not be applicable. Generally, Muslims can only dispose of a third of their estate. The balance will have to be distributed according the Muslim school/sect they belong to. An inheritance certificate issued by the Syariah Court will have to be obtained. This sets out the manner the estate is to be distributed.
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So, when and how should I make a Will?
The answer is simple - you should make a will now. Don't put it off.
After having considered:-
(a) how you want your assets divided and to whom;
(b) whom do you trust to make the executors of your will;
(c) whether you wish for any special funeral arrangements; or
(d) any special instructions you wish to leave your next-of-kinsee a lawyer to help you prepare a will.

The executor is the person who takes charge of your assets after your death to ensure that they are distributed according to your wishes.

A lawyer is not necessary but a good lawyer will be able to assist you clarify your thoughts and ensure that your wishes are expressed in a manner that is clear to reduce the possibility of your will being challenged after your death.

With Reference from the followinf site: http://www.wwlegal.com/

Monday, March 19, 2007

Relation with In-Law

Before marriage I didn’t really understand why it is so difficult.
Near to marriage I get a taste of it.
I dun know what it is going to be like after marriage.

Last night was not a great night out with his family. We both got ignored by his mum. His father was okay, still speak to us as per normal and his elder brother was as friendly as before.

Event:
1) I greeted them upon arrival but only his father reply with a smile. (It could be she didn’t hear me)

2) No matter what my hubby ask, sense that his mum dun really feel like replying. (I tell myself it could be because she is really tired after the whole day walking with his dad)

3) I called her with light pad on her hand to catch her attention twice, wanted to ask her if the ‘old Chinese’ coin found on the floor belong to anyone, she doesn’t really reply me. (I try to ignore the cold shoulder given, just behave like normal)

4) For the whole evening when seat at the table, she doesn’t want to face me nor talk to me. (I try not to think, not to feel soar, just follow my hubby around and act blur for this cold shoulder treatment)

5) My hubby keeps pushing me to talk to his mum, ask me to help her with taking some drinks. I coax myself make it a peaceful night out for my hubby with his family, within me, I’m not willing to ask anymore but with a thought for my hubby’s feeling, I still do as he requested. I was rejected once again.

It’s really all about family; the pre-event:
For example:
1) Your own child no matter how rude, or bad their temper is the parent will understand and tolerate it. If it is your future son / daughter-in-law the story will be different L

2) When I make certain remarks, it is really not towards that particular person (purely objective not subjective). Moreover I didn’t really know who did it; I thought it was my hubby. I try to control my temper towards all others, except when in my own house, towards my mum and hubby, but I have not fully mastered that.

3) Being in a position when your hubby asks you to treat his elder brother like a kid, I tend to said things like what I normally will to a kid. In the end it was mistaken as I am not welcoming them.

I dun want to put my hubby in a difficult position, I knew it was never easy for another outsider to enter a family, esp. when I myself is not good with emotion and temper control.

I tried to be good when with them but things just dun seem to work the way I want it to be. Although I try to pre-empt things like try not to stay under one roof, so that I can control and behave much better when with his family.

I am upset by this, but I think slowly I will learn
1) Dun expect by being their half son/daughter you can behave like a child with your own parent or your hubby. (In-Laws deem it differently, dun expect them to be as tolerance as your parent or hubby toward you)

2) I have pre-empt this and told my hubby before, that’s why I chose to have our own place rather then stay with in-laws (although certain things still went wrong; really beyond what I can pre-empt). But I should be glad that at least we are not under one roof else it will make my day at home look bad.

3) I have pre-empted this situation too and talk to my hubby about it before, but I am still not careful enough in handling this matter. My hubby use to tell me: “He is alright and easy to be with, just treat him like a kid.” But when I really treat him like a kid and coax him to go home, all the adults around me think that I am wrong. I guess this I can only learn via the hard way if I really want to make thing work.

Friday, March 16, 2007

What are we actually pursuing?

Haven't been writing blog often, cos everyday is busy and tired when sit down in front of my notebook... What are we actually pursuing? Sometime I will ponder on such question.

No time for my family, no time for my dear (sorry should add: Dear no time for me too), no time for my soul, then where on earth did I spend my time on?


Wednesday, March 07, 2007

My Ego

I remember I have an existing blog about male ego, but now I am talking about myself. My ego. It is not the first time I receive comment that my ego is too strong.

I should not embarrass my partner in front of friends
I should not throw my temper at my partner too often
I should not take partner tolerance for granted
I should be nice, lovely and sweet to my partner
I should open up my heart, accept imperfect.

I was told that why am I expecting perfect when I am not perfect too.
The true is I understand that we cannot achieve 100% perfect, then why can’t we achieve at least 90% and train another back at the same time

Haven’t I learned? Haven’t I changed? Haven’t I improved?
Must I be hurt again? Shouldn’t my love ones help and guide me along?
Or he wants to see me sink just like that…

Saturday, March 03, 2007

Mutual Respect in Marriage

Today very angry with dear, feel so fedup. Think he does care about mutual respect.

I remember reading an article that writes something like that:
Love may not exist throughout in a marriage life.
There are more then just loves that can tie two people together.
There should be friendship, love, kinship and mutual respect to maintain a good marriage.
In life we will have many different encounters, sometimes we need friends, sometime need a lover, sometime we need family and sometime we just need some mutual respect to feel better.

Friday, February 16, 2007

Cleaning Company 2

As said in my last post attached are the photos taken the next day after A-Cube Microsystems charge me S$239 for cleaning my new bought resale flat...


(CobWeb Found)


(Bed side bulb with thick dust found)



(Dust found in cupboard and draws)


They totally miss out cleaning my shoes rack beside the main door :(
Too bad that day I was busy in office, cannot personally on the spot check.
Trust their professionalism and end up causing my poor mum and aunt another hard day work to help me out in cleaning the house...

So..... Angry with them....
Remember to be careful if you are engaging their service....
Recommended is dun engage them... :p

Thursday, February 15, 2007

Cleaning Company 1

Finally after so long I am more settled to key in my complaint entry. I want to complaint about the following cleaning company - A-Cube Microsystems. I think they are so unprofessional. I found this company via internet and engage their cleaning services for my new house, but they are realy a disappointment.

They charge me $239nett for 6hours cleaning services, end up I need to spend another one whole day with 4 manpower to patch up their cleaning for a 4-room flat. When I call them regarding this matter, they simply ignore me, and ask me to pay them additional $30 to engage them for the additional trip if required. (Ohh my God!! they really take me as 'Big Carrot')

I dun know who or where I can complaint to. I feel so angry and helpless. Want to inform more people to beware of this company. If were to engage such cleaning company, do standby one whole day and follow their worker through all the cleaning process and make sure they do a good job.

In my later entry I will try to post some photos of the dirt in my house just second day after their cleaning...

Tuesday, February 13, 2007

Busy with New House

Hum... haven't been blogging for quite sometime. Recently busy with my new house and coming up is chinese new year. :)

1st Feb 2007 (Thur) New house to see the cleaner at work got a major complain about them...

2nd Feb 2007 (Fri) Bring 'Guan Yin' to 'Guang Ming Shan' - 'Kai Guan'. Rest of the day wait for furniture arrival. While re-clean lotsa place in the house.

3rd and 4th Feb 2007 Most of the time running around to get things for the new house.

Busy Busy... one person to praise is Ming (many years friend), cos we seek help and he reply n was there to help...

Tuesday, January 30, 2007

心很冷

他不關心我。
看見我哭了也當儸無其事。
我哭了一夜。
夜很涼,心很冷。

Friday, January 26, 2007

Customer Service

Acer provide much better customer service when compare to the following encounter with Samsung.

I remember I wrote a feedback to them on both my Acer product having problem, and immediately they send their technician down to collect the laptop from me and keep me updated on my laptop servicing progress…

Had a very bad experience with Samsung Gift Redemption. I bought a 32" LCD TV from Samsung in Nov 2006 and was given a number to call for gift redemption (being assured that we just need to call for redemption).

1) First 3 time call (space out in Dec), gift that we chose (‘washer’) have not arrived. The third time we are issued with a queue number, and just want us to continue call back and check (wonder why can’t they offer to call us back when the stocks are available).

2) My husband called at least 2 times, there is once the staff mentions that we can arrange the delivery date with them once the washer stock arrived.

3) There after many times we called during office hour, either phone engaged or no one pickup. Therefore I resort to calling Samsung service center, but was revert to call the redemption center again.

4) Recently called (23/01/2007), and the staff mention he need to check with the manager before call back. We waited for 2 days and no reply.

5) Today (26/01/2007) I went down to the center personally, the staff there first tells me cannot find our issued queue num. registered with them earlier. When finally found it, they tell me I need to bring my original receipt, warranty card and NRIC in order to arrange for gift redemption (which initially was not being mentioned at all, previously we are told that we can just redeem via the phone).

6) Both my husband and I find it an unpleasant encounter with Samsung and its service related.

Such service is a total contrast to the imagine Samsung has created

How can I make such bad service standard known to people so that they can change for better, and also alert consumer who are affected by these sub-standard service?

磨差

往往人都不知道小事磨差出的火花也可能造成生活里的
‘森林’- (心靈深處) 大火。。。

Charity - ninemillion.org

I found this search site via hotmail - (Have not verify if it is true or false, but below was stated on the website) http://click4thecause.live.com/Search/Charity/Default.aspx?locale=en-au

Give to ninemillion.org with every search. Each time you search here, Microsoft will contribute to ninemillion.org, a UN agency-led campaign providing education and sports programs for the nine million refugee youth around the world

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Thursday, January 25, 2007

Relation

Dun let me get use to life with someone who cannot love me with his heart and soul. I rather be left unhurt…” this sound heavy, but that is how I feel in relationship.

Experience from the past has taught me this; Like a practical session. It is not wrong for someone to choose to leave you, if he cannot love you with his heart and soul. It is truly wrong, if it is a known fact and yet anyone tries to hide it in order not to face the truth of it all.

Tuesday, January 16, 2007

放棄

朋友說放棄了可能你會得到更多。。。
他放棄的是我的幸福還是他的損失???

Let me work for the later... so I must improve myself in life. :p

Got My Keys

Yesterday was the first day I got my house key. I am excited at the same time bothered by a lot of stuff. (E.g. work, finance and other small issues)

At about 3pm I rush to HDB Hub for my 3.45pm 2nd appt, and move from one counter to another to get the paper work done while my hubby was slightly late, everyone down there seem so tense up due to the pace they do thing. But I must comment them for being efficient; within half an hour I complete the house transaction, bought the house fire insurance, connect the PUB utilities and got my keys for the new house.

We head to my in-laws shop to get the fruits (e.g. banana, pineapple and orange) , then to geylang (一天香) to buy joss stick and paper money for praying. Rush home to get ‘xia liu’- a plant, rice, buy coarse salt and paper plate. Reach my in new house at about 5.30pm, and hubby lead me in praying to the god on our first entrance to the new house. Pray for safety, happiness, peace and wealth living in the house. We forget some steps and miss out one thing or two during the simple ritual. Apologies to all the gods out there for our ignorance and do pardon us.

Finally the contractor arranged by my brother-in-law and hubby’s godmother can enter the house. We start to walk around and tell the contractor exactly what we want to do with out place. At about 8pm we are almost done and can proceed for dinner.

Friday, January 12, 2007

Negotiate Project Constraints

Today I happen to read the following article online... I find it useful and decide to load it in my blog for future reference: {^o^}

Yes, You Can Negotiate Project Constraints!
by Alan S. Koch, PMP

"This is what we need. You can use these resources. And you must deliver it by that date."
Does this sound familiar? If so, you are not alone. Many project managers find themselves in just such a situation. There are lots of dictates, no flexibility, and more often than not little realism in the demands.

What value is there in estimation when your sponsor seems to have no interest in finding out what it will really take to do the project? The constraints have been chiseled in stone and we can't change them. End of story. Our job boils down to trying to keep the project from being too much of a disaster.

Although it may not seem to be true, we can negotiate unrealistic project expectations. And the key is to do a good job of estimating what it really will take to do the project.

No One Wants A Failed Project
The first step to negotiating project constraints is to realize that your project sponsor does not want your project to fail. (If your sponsor does want your project to fail, then it is time to get out!) Like everyone else with an interest in your project, your sponsor wants success, and may need it more than you do!

Your sponsor has considered the costs and benefits of doing the project and concluded that there is a good business case for taking it on. Of course, both the costs and the benefits are initial estimates, not final reality. Your sponsor doesn't know what the actual costs will be any more than you do. But the initial estimate is as close as he or she can get during the project initiation phase.

If your sponsor thought the project was doomed to failure, he or she would not have gone forward with it. Failure is not the objective, success is! And your sponsor is counting on success.
Having received your mandate, your first job is to figure out how to make it succeed.

Discovering What It Will Take
Most of us believe that the purpose of estimating and planning is to answer the question, "What will it take?" When we are not asked that question, it might seem that estimation and planning are a waste of time. But nothing can be further from the truth. In fact, in the face of project mandates, careful estimation and full planning are our most potent tools!

Our first step toward being able to negotiate unrealistic project constraints is to fill in the knowledge gaps. We can discover the cost and schedule information that was not available to our sponsor when the project was initiated. This information is a gold mine, because it allows our sponsor to replace his or her initial rough estimates with much more concrete and specific ideas about the nature of the project and what it will take to achieve success.

There are many good estimation and planning methodologies, so we will not detail them here. In brief, we must do these sorts of things:

1. Identify a reference project—one we did previously that has as much similarity to the new project as possible.

2. List all of the activities that will have to happen on this new project, using the reference project as a pattern. Try to be sure that the activities you missed in planning the reference project don't get missed this time!

3. Estimate the effort that each of the project activities will take, again using the reference project as a pattern. Even if you don't have good historical data, you can come up with reasonable approximations based on who did what when on the reference project.

4. Spread that effort over time based on the availability of people and other resources. Don't forget that people cannot work 40 productive hours each week because of overhead and interruptions. Many experts recommend planning for only 20 hours of productive work per week per full-time person.

5. Consider any special complexities or challenges in this new project and adjust your estimates accordingly.

If you find that the cost and schedule you come up with are in line with the initial project constraints, then you can probably manage the project to a successful conclusion. Go for it!
If not, then there is bad news and there is good news. The bad news is that you must go back to your sponsor to renegotiate the project constraints. The good news is that you have the information that you and your sponsor need to figure out how to make the project successful!

Negotiating
The question about whether the project can succeed given the initial constraints is no longer a matter of your opinion vs. your sponsor's opinion. You are now coming to the table with the best available data. After your sponsor gains confidence in your data, renegotiating the project will simply be a mater of adjusting the project scope, schedule target, and/or budgetary constraints in order to make the puzzle pieces fit.

For most of us, the hard part will be selling our data to our sponsor. Too many of us have a history of challenged projects that undermines our credibility in the sponsor's eyes. We must focus on the facts as presented by history.

· "Why do you have to do all of these things?" can be answered with, "We learned on projects X, Y and Z that if we skip these steps, these bad things happen ..."
· "That shouldn't take that long!" can be answered with, "That's how long it took on projects A, B and C."
· "Can't we cut this corner?" can be answered with, "We cut that corner on project Q, and this was the result ..."
· "Why should I believe you this time?" can be answered with, "This time, I am using history as my guide instead of my best guess or the initial rough estimates."

The key is to avoid discussing opinion, focusing instead on historical fact. And don't expect that this project will progress any differently than your reference project (unless you do things differently this time, that is).

After you have brought the facts to the table, it is your sponsor's job to decide what to do with them. He or she has several options, including dropping the project, adjusting the project scope or constraints, or demanding a "death-march." In the end, such decisions are your sponsor's to make. By bringing real data to the table, you have done your part; and you have increased the odds of project success immeasurably by doing so.
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Author’s Profile:
Alan S. Koch, PMP is a speaker and writer on effective Project Management methods. He is a certified Project Management Professional and President of ASK Process, Inc., a training and consulting company that helps companies to improve the return on their software investment by focusing on the quality of both their software products and the processes they use to development them. His 28 years in software development include 14 years designing, developing and maintaining software and over 13 years in quality assurance and software process improvement. He was with the Software Engineering Institute (SEI) at Carnegie Mellon University (CMU) for 13 years. His book Agile Software Development: Evaluating the Methods for your Organization was published by Artech House in 2005.
Article extracted from :
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