Something I all dun know... why will people feel hurt even thought it is stuff of past. while we are suppose to look forward into the future.
Am I now a family to him? Why do I still see 'her' photos around and name as family... Why is it so? What is the point of bringing it up?
Past, present and future. Which is real and most important? Dun they all weigh the same?
Is he too careless, and I think too much that cause should a big gap between us at time.
From http://dictionary.reference.com, I got the following definition:
1. The 'I' or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought.
2. Psychoanalysis. The part of the psychic apparatus that experiences and reacts to the outside world and thus mediates between the primitive drives of the need and the demands of the social and physical environment.
Today one of my friend (a.k.a z.f) msn me said that he is feeling lousy and asked me out for a drink. He feels lousy as one of the girls, he use to go out with seem to keep a distance from him. Why did the girl keep a distance from him? Well maybe she wanted to be more focus since now there is another guy who dated her out frequently. After all z.f. just date her out as friend and no further.
From what I know, z.f. is not lack of gal friends company (but not in relationship). I asked if he think the girl is the one. Is he prepared to commit and drop all other dates with his gal friends? If yes, then go for it. Yet he cannot answer my question…
Why did he feel lousy then? Is it cos he likes her or just his male ego? Yes, that’s the word – ‘EGO’ cos he feels that the gal has give priority to another guy, that’s why he feels lousy, he did not feel lousy cos he has fell for the girl and wanted to commit in a relationship.
That’s why people want commitment in relationship. This will give you a sense of security and priority over others right?
In fact this morning right after the visit back to my office, I went online to search for stuff regarding ‘Contract’ and via http://www.business.gov.sg web site I email to ask about the following and was very please with their prompt reply. {^o^}
Question: contract copy
Hi person-incharge,
Will like to seek some advice on contract matters. If a contract is signed and fax over to the company without original mail out, is it consider a valid contract? (the contract may involve dollars and cents)
Thank you
Regards.
- jaceanx -
Dear jaceanx
Thank you for your enquiry dated 19/10/2006.
According to the law in Singapore, a contract should be in its original copy for all parties involved. If there are three parties, there should be three original copies of the contract. A fax copy is not considered as a valid one. Example, in courts, the judges would want to see the original copy. The courts would still take into consideration if the contract is a fax or photocopied copy. However, this contract would not represent a strong evidence for any cases.
It is also advisable to have signatures of all parties on every page to deter people from amending and making changes to the contract.
In depends on the country also. Example, in USA, an email contract can be a strong evidence for court cases.
If you have further enquires regarding contract laws, you can also approach the Enterprise Development Centre or the EDC@ASME which is an advisory centre for aspiring entrepreneurs and current business owners to gain access to a wide range of expert business consultancy services.
The centre offers advisory services such as business registration, business search and matching, business development, financing, management, training and legal services.
The centre may charge a fee depending on the types of services rendered.
For more information on what EDC@ASME can do for your business, you may contact it at 6513 0388 or sme@asme.org.sg.
EDC@ASME is located at:
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Singapore 150167
Tel: (65) 6513 0388
Email: sme@asme.org.sg
As for now, there are four EDCs you can approach. For their areas of specialization, please refer to our website at http://www.business.gov.sg
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See isn’t it informative. {^o^} Thank you for the fast and informative reply.
Last night finally force myself to go for a weekday short run (have this idea for quite long but never put it into action). Thanks, to my poly pal Z.F. he was one of the encouraging factor, cos he ‘onz’ running with me and we agreed to meet in East Coast Park at 8pm.: p
After our run, hubby called. He said he need to make his way home as his parent was in trouble for signing a wrong advertising contract and need to pay 4k plus. He pick me up at about 10.20pm from East Coast Mac. This evening we stay in my-in-laws place till about 12am to understand and work on what we can do about it.
Situation
My in-laws are in a small business (stationery shop). Last month (September 2006) the advert company (a.k.a SBP in short) sent a letter stating the terms and conditions of the advertise service they provide in the 2-years contract. If they agreed just need to check the company information printed, sign and fax back to them.
As my in-laws are not well verse in English, therefore they mistook it as letter from the ‘Yellow Page’ which previously published they telephone and fax number wrongly and now is seeking their confirmation for the next issue. (Cos SBP logo is yellow and carry the word ‘Singapore’)
They quickly sign and fax it over as there is a cut-off date given. Who know just yesterday they received a invoice asking them to pay $4250 for the fist year edition (the whole contract is for 2 edition) and they are so shocked that they immediately seek help to fully understand the letters and discovered the misunderstanding they have. And to cancel the advert, my in-laws will still need to pay them $4250. ‘Why?’ Well the answer is simple cos they charge 50% of the contract as cancellation fee and the contract is for 2years.
2years = 2 editions
Each edition cost $4250
[($4250*2)* 50% = $4250]
* All the above exclude GST
Immediate action
They immediately went to M.P. and seek help on this case, as there is no way they can pay up this amount. Their business has not been good and every month they are actually losing money due to the stationery shop (history is that my hubby has already throw in 20k of his saving to help his parents, now they really dun have much).
Queries
There are a few things which I still dun quite get it.
1) If this is a 2 years contract which involves 8k plus business, why didn’t the company bother to sent some one to explain to them?
2) With only the fax copy (original still with my in-laws) and no counter sign on a amended phone number in the contract is the contract valid?
Follow up action
As hubby was not free, last night I was assigned the task of accompanying my mother-in-law to the advert company to check out if there is anything we can do about it (Father-in-law was advised not to go with us, just wait drove us there cos his temper was too big, we do not want to make thing look ugly at present stage). First thing in the morning… Arrive at the advert company:
CSx: ‘Hi, we have called yesterday regarding the payment of CSx advert’
SBP: ‘Ohh, you may come in first. Just pull the door’
‘Click’, wow what a heavy glass door I have a hard time pulling it. Walk up the stairs of the shop house (the office was pretty well decorated). Was greet by their staff, look okie quite friendly. Finally a lady, with long straight hair and look refine came in and talk to us. I start the conversation, in mandarin so that my mother-in-law will understand what we are saying.
I explained that the whole thing was misunderstand from my in-laws. Cos they mistook the whole thing as sent by ‘Yellow Page’, they really have no intention to take up such advertisement as the shop is not making any money.
The lady was nice enough to tell us that since they have sent out the invoice, if we will to cancel there might be a cancellation fee involved. She understand that for a small shop to pay this amount maybe too much, what she can try to help is for us to write and fax her supporting documents like account balance for the company (use to submit for tax declaration) and bank statement for the shop, to prove that it is really beyond the shop ability to pay for this advertising amount and waive the cancellation charges. She agreed to hold the reminder invoice till 25th Oct 2006 (Wed) for us, while we try to get all these documents prepared.
Feedbacks from my mum, why do some companies and government agencies forget the fact that not all Singapore citizens understand English? (E.g. age 45 and above.) Suddenly I realise, yap my mum got a point. Shouldn’t a contract be valid only if it is draft in the language understood by the person who is signing it? Or should the contract be only valid if the person who draft it / sent it out explain to the person who sign it? (Especially important for contracts that involve dollars and cents)
After so much for my next stage in life, not back at work…
Recently was busy at work…
Although have been tied up with all my logic @ work, but like my usual self I like to find things irrelevant to read for leisure. (heehee.. think of my school days when near exam, I will entertain myself with novels)
Today I went to read blinkymummy, xiaxue and kennysia blog. They all have their own way and style of writing. Among them I am impressed by what is written by kennysia, but blinkymummy blog is closer to my environment and daily life.
Guess what, I think for my blog I should write more on current affairs and my present surrounding. Only then will I improve my writing while gaining more knowledge on the topic.
I have ROM. Now consider married. No long ‘Miss’, a few friends have been teasing me... "Now is Mrs/Mdm". Hum... I feel so much older in that salutation.
The greatest challenge come when filling in form, cos now I am not ‘Miss’ and no long single. Other than this nothing much change, cos I am still living with Dad and Mum tentatively. Our matrimony house is not ready yet (we have got ourselves a re-sale flat, but have not book for our first appointment).
As I have informed my mum, next time even if I move out they must still reserve my room for me. {^o^} hee... still as greedy. I am so frighten that I lose my own private space. I think the only place where I can maintain my own personal space is at Dad and Mum place.
I dun know how my other half will treat me next time. Of course I hope that he can be as good to me as now from ROM day till the last day of my life. I hope our life will not be intruded. I look forward to our life together...
Recently I happen to know of something, which makes me think very lowly of this guy personality. I ask myself a few questions:
1) How can a guy said he feel lose when he is about to start a new life with his girlfriend. (Shouldn’t he feel great and looking forward to his married life?)
2) How can he propose to his girlfriend while on the other hand tell his ex how he miss their past?
I really feel this kind of guy is horrible... :( Yet in the past, I use to innocently think that he is an introvert that's why have a lot of issues not shared. Now I feel that it is not due to his introvert character, it is more like he has many things that he dare not expose in daylight.
Life itself is never meant for perfect. If life itself is imperfect, why don't we at least strive for 'near perfect'? Someone ever told me, imperfect itself can be beautiful if you know how to appreciate.
In my past entry I mention 'high expectation', is that a way to express the want of perfection? (I thought so) I always feel that without expectation one will not improve.
Now I know my life may not be as perfect as I want or have imagined it to be, but being happy is enough. Why is there a need for perfect? On the other hand I ask myself, is there a need to settle for something not up to my standard for 'near perfect' cos I want to hold on the current happiness? How do I know I am not scarifying my future for this current (which is not perfect to me presently)? How do I know I will/will not find something more perfect than this? This brings in another statement I heard of: 'Life is all about decision...'
