Life in my 40s

 I felt so much... for my own emotion roller coaster.

Not that I been through alot.. I am neither a "有背景的人" nor a "有故事的人".

Just that turn back and look at myself since I turn 40 and how do I want to manage my life? I realise I like to review, look into past and ask how it can be done better? Which to some it may seem useless n waste of time but to me there is always a lesson learnt.

I feel it and acknowledge that the year I turn 40, I was really emotionally weak, constantly in depress mood due to work and family could not help. That year, I took a break from work and get myself in shape with more time to rest and workout.

I realised, as long as I dun hold certain expectation too high n stuff too tight cause I did not achieve it (learn to let go) life is so much happier and emotion can be stronger.

After returning back to work in 2020, I have been learning to let go and keep my mood light whenever possible. I also learn to appreciate what I already have more than what I have not achieve.

Slowly I realise I do have a lot more than I used to think, and as long as I am happy n keep my life active, I can attract more happiness along the way, not only me, but those who love me n surround me will feel it too and they will be happier as I keep them close and surround them with my happiness.

This year 2024, both my eldest and second girl got part-time job. Not the first time for eldest but is for the second girl, glad that they learn to experience life, with school, work, friends... got complaints but still see them enjoying going to work for the responsibility n money earned.

Also so Proud of both elder girl received a scholarship (top 5% in school) n EAGLES award, while second girl received Top 10% in school and Character award. 👏🏻👏🏻

Social Media

This weekend I watched a documentary on Netflix on "The social media dilemma'

It is so true that if we switch a thinking direction.. social media have turn the advertiser to 'consumer' as they pay to advertise, while social media user become the 'product' as advertiser spend to buy our online time (to be influence by the stuff that was published/advertised). :)

Apology

 Is it a trend now for people to demand for any apology? But it is getting so childish for one to demand for it...

I think if an apology is sincere, there is no need to make a demand for it. If an apology is received through demand isn't that so meaningless. In fact, it makes the party demanding look bad, because the party who gave in must be due to big picture and not cause they think, they are in the wrong.

世上渣男还真多

"我犯了全天下男人都会犯的错。" 😁

女孩别傻了。😭

“男人不壞，女人不愛”，“女人不笨，男人不疼”。🤣🤣🤣

可惜，笨了也不一定被疼。😭😭但一定被欺。

竟然要单身的生活，为何选择结婚生子。

不管在何时，为你早想的男人，才是爱你的。

不为任何事或人，就只为你一人。

New House Anxiety

Something boiling.. I sense it n smell it coming..

• 15 years ago when I bought my first HDB.
• 6 years ago when BIL bought their first HDB.
• This year we purchased our landed.

All I see at these juncture is PIL n now MIL making fuss and not a single nice word of blessing. (Not that we really need but as parent is this right?)

家和万事兴，长辈要能让晚辈尊重才好。

一哭二闹是小孩，没用。

(Understand from short conversation two evening back - so drop my thoughts here but will not output it to family conversation cause I know it will only make thing worse)

1) MIL move back to her own plc frm BIL plc over last weekend. - All along I sense issue between MIL n SIL, just that we all keep quiet n look okay on surface. Anyway even my own relationship with MIL is in same situation.

2) Complain the kid not filial, cannot meet her retirement expectation. - Retirement plan should be by ownself instead of pushing it to kids to meet the expectation. We give birth to give them a life n not to make them live a life for us.

3) If let her stay over in the small room at level 1 in future is like treating her like a helper (Hum.. like that also can complaint *OMG*). - There is never a plan to let her stay with us, I can accompany my hubby stay over her plc with her some days per month/week, but I really cannot do it the other way for long term. First still have space limitation base on what she need x2 room, second her cleanliness and willingness to help in the house with my expectation n lifestyle... I think will trigger grievances when stay together on longer term.

与其到时吵的鸡犬不宁，不如保持现状。

不要玩火，那是危险的。